The holidays are great and all but if you’re anything like me, the holidays also come with a shit ton of anxiety baggage.
Gifts and Christmas activities and decorating the house inside and out and baking baking baking and shopping upon shopping then wrapping and trying to remember that one distant cousin you should really buy a bottle of wine for…
It. gets. damn. exhausting.
Mom brains already have a million tabs open at any given moment. Christmas seems to pile on an extra couple thousand. It’s not even December 1st and I’m already feeling overwhelmed and bogged down by the never ending to-do list of JUST CHRISTMAS stuff.
Add that on to my typical overwhelming to-do list and I’m about ready to shut down for the next 30 days.
So I had a brilliant idea yesterday that is going to minimize my holiday stress. It won’t take away the stress completely, but it will help. And I’ll take all the help I can get.
This year, I have decided that I’m going to intentionally “forget” to give half the gifts I normally stress about.
Oh, and in case you don’t know me personally, every year I actually hand make 75% of my Christmas gifts. Anything from wood signs and blanket ladders to knit scarves and mitts and quilts – and yes, I’m going to “forget” those too!
This is my third year of Christmas with my little girls. I’ve kept up the stressful shenanigans while they were small but my firstborn is two-and-a-half now and I am going to focus this magical season on her and her sister.
In the past, I spent all of November stressing about Christmas gifts so that I could “enjoy” December but it never really worked out that way! I would stress stress stress to hand make, sew, knit, and bake all month so I could lallygag through December; galavanting through the snow looking at lights and drinking rum and egg nog. But that’s never really what would happen.
All my projects and gift-buying would spill into December and all my November prep didn’t really make a huge difference after all.
So this year – this is it.
I’m forgetting the gifts.
I am doing gifts for MY kids. And my immediate family’s kids.
But friends and friends kids? Sorry guys. I’m sick of being overwhelmed and putting myself in debt for the holidays.
I’m not going to say it’s not worth it… because it totally is, every year. I LOVE giving everyone I know something special and from the heart. However, I have decided that doesn’t need to only happen during Christmas. If I have an idea for a gift for a friend or family member, they are just going to get it. If I can afford to buy it or I have time to make it.
I am going to slow December down. I am going to dance and sing to Christmas songs, bake cookies, hang stockings and decorate the tree.
I am going to drive around and look at Christmas lights.
I am going to take my girls to see Santa.
But I am not going to the mall a million times and over-spending just for the sake of spending.
Sorry Santa. I am not being good this year. I am being very selfish and I’m fine with it!